2-6-12 Moon in Leo Kin 140 6 Muluc

Would we rather have someone say we were preferably polite or delicately distracted? Is there a marked difference? Are we ever in an objective enough position to evaluate? Why is it important, (IF it is) for us to be seen in the best light possible? Exactly how is ‘that’ determined and surmised? Do we not decide, delegate and interpret how we are being perceived or are we so consumed with the ‘positive aspects’ , we assume, are associated with our own personality, we never fully realize, appreciate or accept the multi-layered conflicting energy we send out? In other words, are we so disconnected from the basic projection of our real core, we continually send out and receive contrary, ambiguous and confusing messages?

Often times, we accuse others of not understanding our words, misinterpreting our intent, or perceive them as attacking us for having relayed an unintentional subliminal message; which they would NOT do if they hadn’t received it in the first place. We are quick to ‘jump back at them’ in our defense, defending and demanding we never meant whatever it was they received ‘wrong’ in the conversation. However, the problem lies not in the other’s perception or evaluation but in our own turbulent insistence not to effectively LISTEN whole-heartedly to what the other is trying to convey to us. This skillful art of listening requires focus, attention and most of all, interest. We are wrapped up in what we are outwardly projecting (saying) we dismiss the other, {rather rudely, in fact}, in the midst of loudly declaring, what they have to say is unimportant, trite and inconsequential.

Do we consciously do this all the time? No. It’s only on those occasions when we are so busy (much too busy); not allowing adequate space in our hearts, minds and parameter of life-sustaining energy, for the other to slip in. We ‘cut them off’ at the pass, so to speak. And, they feel it! Not only do they perceive that we are dismissing “them” (and what they have to say) as unimportant, but they feel slighted and slimed for having bothered us in the first place. We need never to be that busy and IF we are, our responsibility is to make it plain that we are not in a frame of mind to interact at the present time, since we are engaged in a project that matters to us. IF we are crystal clear, without lauding any arrogance of tone, many hurt and misunderstood feelings in various relationships could be aborted.

But, what happens, most often times, we interrupt whatever we are busily involved in, simply because we feel the unrelated emotional need to respond or interpret we might feel guilty IF we don’t. All sorts of undeveloped complications and unnecessary confrontations ensue because of this disconnected ‘from the source’ response. Why we are unable to stay focused and committed to our present work without inviting gnawing aggravations (stimulated by us though it appears as if they come from others) to unsettle and dismantle, remains as a psychologically oppressive question. Instead of investigating why we can’t either terminate the confrontation, with conscious clarity, before it gets out of hand, or accept the generating motive offered from ourselves as a means to get ‘less busy’, change the project or readjust the specific ‘set in stone’ attitude with which we are approaching either our work or the people in our lives, we add insult to injury by refusing to see our dismembering discussions about the incident.

We bunker down in our defensive position, as if, entrenched in a field of land mines, too anxious and up tight to offer an honest, courteous reply. It’s a shame, really. Life is much too short to form and mutilate relationships with a pointless, lazy, indifferent approach. IF we are truly operating from the foundational core of our being, involving ourselves in project that elicit our utmost passion, we do have enough time to get everything done we want to achieve. We never have to offend or attack another. It’s only when we are too insecure, unsure and ambivalent about what we are engaged in that causes the difficulties. It is written,”You can’t serve two masters. You will either love the one or hate the other…”Paraphrased.

IF we are dedicated, focused and committed to a project that matters to us, we will maintain an authentic enthusiastic demeanor. Why? Because the project will add to our energy level and not deplete it. We will never feel as if someone or something interferes because we will convey our feelings in an open, honest, and understandable, {incapable of being misconstrued} manner in which the other does not feel left out or ignored. Am I saying we have to babysit others in order not to offend or discredit? No. I am merely saying a straightforward acknowledgement and open dialogue of true intent, with both parties, will remove the confusion. Our part in the matter ends with us needing to be thought of as kind, considerate, good and compassionate. Their part involves them being direct and sincere enough to appreciate candidness and forthrightness in the relationship.

Let’s consider an example; cutting our hair represents that place in our life where we are openly declaring that we need a new perspective. In some way, we are declaring we are ready for a new start, so much so, that we welcome the change, not as an offensive intrusion but an eager invitation. No matter how it turns out! We have the gracious opportunity to look directly at the celebrated obvious signs, (in our own monotonous habitual character) saying with full exuberance, that although we cut our hair many times throughout a lifetime, we basically remain the same with no change whatsoever.

We get up and leave the hairdresser’s station with all of our former plans of success still intact, undisturbed and certainly not inconvenienced (since we were the ones to solicit her service, time and appointment). We do not blame the hairdresser for having messed up our hair, {IF, in fact, she does} for our lives have not been altered one single bit. We have, been able to see just how demanding, intolerant and unpleasant we are as a person based on the emotional response we give.

IF we go a little bit deeper, we can see beyond the hairstyle of the moment. We could even be able to realize we are not of this world nor have we ever been. So opinions, and intrusions and ‘bad’ haircuts don’t bother us in the least. We KNOW, beyond a shadow of a doubt there is much more not seen than can be seen, felt or smelled by our finite senses. Cutting our hair frees our mind so that we are able to discern the activity of demobilizing spirit of division working to invade us at all times. We are never to be encumbered by needless trivial matters that would so beset us. It’s just a hair cut for God’s sake. It will grow back. Just like the person who may want and need our attention when we’re not willing to give it. No need to get upset with them. They simply don’t realize how tied up we are. We don’t even know it, how could they possibly discern the lack of freedom we feel? Who knows? They could possibly offer us a ‘what seems to be’ barrier brush to untangle the impervious knots of 'being so important and special' we cling to.