1-6-2012
Moon in Gemini Kin 118 1 Etznab

It has been said that if you want to know a person, look at his mate. And, if you want to know the psychological temperature of a particular involvement, look at how often the two partners laugh spontaneously. Not at each other, necessarily, but without having been invited to. The resonating tone of the inflected voice will reveal so much despondency IF you pay attention with full awareness. Certain words will flatten out before the end, in spite of being delivered with a smile. Human tones don’t lie.

Try this little experiment. Speak aloud, with as much fervent, convincing passion as is possible: “I absolutely love rotten eggs mixed together with clabbered milk on top of molded bread.” No matter how much you try to project a persuading tone, the sentence will continue to reveal a verifiable flatness. Almost in the same way a lie detector test picks up unconscious changes in electrical firings of the brain. What do you say about that? The irrefutable truth is: you can’t conceal your innermost feelings! The human body will not allow you to do so. We are simply hardwired for biological predilection.

It’s all part of the emotional plight introduced, absorbed and projected in subtle preferences. Our human ‘form of flesh’ will not be deceived. Although, we attempt maneuvers {sometimes elaborately performed in oh-so dramatic falsified stints of recognizable verification}, the blinking neon sign of nefarious deception appears in full animated pulsating clarity destroying the walls of self-satisfaction we’ve carefully built, once we endeavor to deceive.

The uncomfortable sensation especially saturates us when we pursue an avenue {person, place or thing} relationship, which does not interest or excite us. We caustically assign blame for our dull disinterest, inconsistent moods and inexplicable irritability on the other, but we KNOW, down under, we are not being honest; first, with ourselves, then, our mates.

On the same token, IF our mate is jovial, entertaining, instinctively witty and amicable, remaining as the front runner of involved interaction, then when we complain, criticize and condemn our present state of unhappiness, we are lying through our polished teeth. In other words, we are indisputably happy but refuse to accept the delightful state of mind for fear of it dissolving or diminishing in some manner. Mates mirror us, period. They are the perfect reflection of what’s going on in the deepest levels of our psyches. WE are not really jealous, envious, insecure or agitated; we merely invent the confrontations for sheer entertainment.

To eliminate the vague restlessness and gnawing lack of confidence, which usually penetrates our heart and mind of the relationship, once having gotten involved for any measurable length of time, [planting seeds of undeniable discontent]; we need ask what is genuinely important to us? Then, observe the fractured inconsistencies in our mates. We can see nothing of demonstrable contentment in ourselves IF we cannot find it in the other.

Our mates show us the unquestionable truth about ourselves, always; barring nothing. IF we are declaring in accented tones of unbreakable bliss, that we are happy beyond compare but our mates are totally dissatisfied, recheck the personal thermostat. “It ain’t so!” Remember: we usually discount or discard notions that contradict what we tell ourselves. We are lazy by nature and most often times, don’t want to invest the energy needed to investigate. IF things are not going so well in the romance department, we immediately want to blame the other for not recognizing and fulfilling our needs, instead of checking the barometric pressure within.

Needs, desires, wants and aspirations are extremely individual. No one can experience or share your personal passion. It’s very romantic and idyllic to think one can, but that heavy loaded plane simply won’t fly. You’re going to have find ‘peace of mind’ on your own to see it reflected in your mate. IF it’s not there, the dissolution occurs, but not without prior soul’s approval from you. “I Can See Clearly Now” , like the pop song reiterates, IF you will but take the time, inclination, interest and the unbiased self-vested view to examine the mental state of your mate. It’s really, sincerely, unmistakably worth the effort. Your most flammable emotions are revealed through the bombastic rebuttal and detailed explanation of that person who is most significant in your life.

Next time you want to find fault with the other, ask yourself what it is you are denying in yourself. Why do you continually bemoan your lot by comparing and competing with others who you assume are more satisfied? Remember the face of your mate. Look at the faintly appearing lines, the deeply entrenched scowl peering underneath the veneered tolerance. Oh. Yes, there’s a distinct remarkable reason why you are united to this particular person. The message is unmistakably subtle, but none-the-less clear. Have you integrated the malignant parts of yourself which you label as benign in the other? I didn’t think so. Let’s pretend you are a car mechanic. Would you or would you not, clean the large oil spills from the cement floor once the busy day in the shop was over? Clean up, clean out or close shop. It’s entirely up to you!