1-3-2012
Moon in Taurus Kin 115 11 Men

Enduring relationships are comparable to the process involved in alchemical magic of frying donuts. Three elements are indispensable: the exact amount of heat, consistently applied pressure and just enough combustible light to ignite a binding force of nuclear fusion in the other two elements. When one of the other of these essential ingredients is amiss, the magic donuts, like the relationship will be ruined, miss the mark; in essence, simply fall apart.

The correct shortening temperature for frying donuts is 370° to 380° F (188° to 193° C). If the shortening temperature is too high, the do-nut will fry way too fast on the outside preventing proper expansion, the size and consistency will be subnormal and the batter on the inside will be too tightly formed making for added toughness in the character. If the shortening temperature is too low, the do-nut diffuses itself by spreading too rapidly, producing large rings, and tends to crack open. The outer layered crust color will be invariably light and the shortening absorption way too high. Translated: it won’t look right and it will taste bad.

Deliciously thriving relationships ‘establish and maintain’ themselves in the self-same manner of a properly induced magical environment. IF all of the three elements are operating in adequate form and fashion, the relationship sustains itself, IF not, it dissipates rather quickly. Some would have us believe that neither one of the elements is necessarily imperative for a functioning union of lasting value. But, try as you might, IF you don’t check the temperature of the ‘oil’ (emotional barometer/energy compass) prior to adding the relationship batter, you will suffer and endure the consequences.

Needless to say, couples need expansion of their individual selves; if not, they, like the invisible entity of their silent partner, {the relationship itself}, will toughen in character, making the parties involved, unable to move about in flexibility and pliable momentum. In other words, laughter will cease; suffocation will occur. And, just as vital to the endurance and sustainability of the relationship is the undeniable need to stay centered and focused on one’s essential spiritual core. If not, one of the partners will bleed into the other producing resentment rings of unexpressed hostility, which having sought for gratitude/appreciation/recognition and not finding it, cracks open.

Here’s the sweet deal: you can’t escape from the vital requirements involved in frying donuts any more than you can flee from seeing to it that the basic ingredients are supplied in the appropriate temperate environment in your relationship. In other words, you can’t deny, denigrate and resist your part in the involvement, which would be the EVERYTHING of durability in the union.

If you would but work to understand, incorporate and reflect upon your complex, driven nature, incorporating the fact that you live your life as a comet. Your throttled engine remains in full gear, high speed, revved up to utmost capacity, most of the time. Then, what happens? You crash. If you would but realize, when you are about to deplete your resources, before your abrupt flight of hidden departure, you may just be able to uphold your end of the relationship bargain. Instead of having to run away to hide, you would be able to properly prepare the oil to the correct temperature before corrupting the commitment with unstated and unexpressed privacy needs.

Yes; you do need your privacy. Everyone does. Why? {To regroup and recoup} You are never meant to bleed into the other anymore than the other is to disseminate into you. Maybe moderation is a good term for you to learn. Or maybe ‘pacing yourself’ might be even a better term. Of course, knowing your very impatient nature, you will try to achieve that magical state overnight, too. It won’t happen.

Slow down a bit, the entire world does not have to be served this day. Nor do you have the shoulder the problems of the entire mass of the globe’s population. What an incalculable ego you possess! Stop trying so hard. Give it a rest; the other, too. Re-charging is good; vital even. From this point on, never feel guilty when you have to shut yourself away. Not only is it a crucial ingredient to your own survival {and, that of your current relationship} but the freshly prepared batch of do-nuts will come out of the consciously prepared oil perfectly hot, light, golden brown, mouth-watering and scrumptiously delicious!